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A Prayer about Talking about Death and Dying

A Prayer about Talking about Death and Dying

The last enemy to be destroyed is death. 1 Corinthians 15:26

Gracious Father,

You know how deathly afraid we are of death. 

We ask for your grace and mercy 

to help us talk about death and dying, 

well before we have any inkling that we might die. 

We ask you to give us the words 

to talk about death and dying 

with friends and family members 

who are facing a terminal diagnosis. 

Help us to talk about things 

like advance directives, 

which help us to choose 

which aggressive medical measures 

we wish doctors to use 

when our bodies are shutting down 

and the hope for a cure is long past. 

Help us to educate ourselves 

on these medical measures like CPR 

which looks nothing in reality 

like it does on TV, 

or ventilators, 

which can prevent a dying person 

from uttering her last words to her loved ones. 

Help younger family members to not be frightened

when their parents want to discuss their wishes; 

help elder family members 

be willing to share their wishes 

with younger ones. 

Because our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ died 

and was raised from the dead 

that we might have forgiveness of sins 

and join him in eternal glory, 

give us the courage 

to prepare for glory 

by facing our mortality. 

In Jesus’ courageous name. Amen.

Read 1 Corinthians 15:26-28; Hebrews 2:8.

For help in having these conversations, check out my book, Preparing for Glory: Biblical Answers to 40 Questions about Living and Dying in Hope of Heaven. 

To listen to hospice worker and palliative care worker, Kelly Markham, LCSW, discuss these things, go here.



A Prayer about Missing People and Places at the Holidays

A Prayer about Missing People and Places at the Holidays

“My soul longs, yes, faints for the courts of the Lord; my heart and flesh sing for joy to the living God. Psalm 84:2

Gracious and Hospitable Lord,

As Thanksgiving comes around, 

our family misses my mom and her home. 

For many years, we visited her there, 

but her home now belongs to another; 

her new home is in heaven with you.

I know many face a similar sorrow. 

It will be their first holiday without their loved one. 

In a season when we may feel exiled from familiar places, 

draw our hearts to your ever-present 

and always abundant hospitality. 

You make homes for sparrows and nests for swallows (Psalm 84:3),

and you have invited us to be your sons and daughters. 

Even as we limp through the Valley of Weeping,

You make it a place of springs (Psalm 84:6), 

refreshing our hearts with your gentleness and joy.

When we tend to believe the lie that we are bereft, 

remind us that you are our “sun and shield,” 

bestowing “favor and honor,” 

assuring us, “No good thing 

do I withhold from those who walk uprightly” (Psalm 84:11).  

In the name of your Son, 

who came to walk this earth with us 

that we might live in heaven with you. 

Amen.

Read Psalm 84.



A Prayer about Praising Jesus

A Prayer about Praising Jesus

Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls…Matthew 11:29

Gentle and Lowly Jesus,

To praise you 

is to name what is true about you every day, 

all the time, 

no matter how difficult 

our circumstances may be. 

You are compassionate and kind, 

even when a loved one is getting worse 

instead of better (Matthew 9:36),

You are gentle and forgiving, 

even when sin has gotten the best of us again (Luke 23:34),

You are patient and pain-bearing, 

even when hope for a baby has dimmed (1 Corinthians 13:4; 7),

You are the way, the truth, and the life, 

even when our hearts have wandered far off the path (John 14:6),

You are the bread of life, 

even when our budgets are shrinking (John 6:25-29),

You are the Good Shepherd, 

even when our children act like wayward sheep (John 10:11-14).

Precious Jesus, 

how we thank you for your 

steady, 

sturdy, 

always-loving heart 

for us. 

May we draw near to you 

every moment 

of every day 

for the saving help we need.

In your faith-full name. Amen.

Read Luke 23:34; 1 Corinthians 13; John 14:6; John 6:25-29; John 10:11-14.



A Prayer about Lamenting Chronic Illness

A Prayer about Lamenting Chronic Illness

For he has not despised or scorned

    the suffering of the afflicted one;

he has not hidden his face from him

    but has listened to his cry for help. Psalm 22:24

Good Father,

Today we lift up our friends 

who have searched and searched and searched,

 who have waited and waited and waited

…for health, for wholeness, for healing. 

We join in their lament 

using the words of David:

“My God, my God, 

why have you forsaken me? 

Why are you so far from saving me?”

[Don’t you hear my groaning?]

“O my God, I cry by day, 

but you do not answer, 

and by night, but I find no rest” (Ps. 22:2).

How we thank you, Heavenly Father, 

that you have given voice to our lament 

in your Word.

As David names his grief to you, 

he remembers his reason to trust in you, 

and he asks boldly and persistently for help. 

We join him on behalf of all of our friends 

who have suffered for years:

“In you our ancestors put their trust;

    they trusted and you delivered them”

(Ps. 22:4).

“Be not far from me, for trouble is near, 

and there is none to help”

(Ps. 22:11).

As we raise our cry for help, 

may we remember that you are the good Father, 

and may we join with David in praising you, 

for we have even more reason to hope: 

your Son, our Savior was forsaken on the cross 

that we might be forgiven, 

that we might one day live with you 

in eternal glory, 

in whole and healed bodies forever and ever. 

Read Psalm 22.



A Prayer about the God Who Knows Us When We Don’t Know Ourselves

A Prayer about the God Who Knows Us When We Don’t Know Ourselves

Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known. 

1 Corinthians 13:12

Heavenly Father, 

Thank you for this assurance: 

we are fully known by you. 

In seasons of grief or uncertainty, 

of sorrow or stress, 

of caregiving or crisis, 

we often feel like 

we don’t know anything anymore. 

We may not recognize ourselves: 

where we were once full of energy, 

we now struggle to get out of bed; 

where we once attended Bible study regularly, 

we now find ourselves stuck in a waiting room; 

where we once felt we knew you well, 

we now find ourselves doubting your plan. 

In those places, we need to hear you speaking certainty to us:

“Fear not for I have redeemed you; 

I have called you by name, 

you are mine.

Fear not, for I am with you…

I will…bring my sons from afar, 

and my daughters from the end of the earth…” (Isaiah 43:1; 5-6).

We need to hear you affirming your knowledge of us 

even when we have wandered far from you:

“It was I who knew you in the wilderness, 

in the land of drought” (Hosea 13:5).

Yes, now our vision of you and ourselves is spotty, 

dimmed by the cataracts of life 

in a fallen world, 

but one day we will see you 

face to face. 

And then we will know fully who we are

(your beloved daughters and sons) 

because we will finally know fully who you are. 

Until that day comes, 

may we rest in the hope 

that we are fully known 

and incredibly loved by you. 

In Jesus’ loving name. Amen.

Read Isaiah 43:1-7; 1 Corinthians 13:8-134.



A Prayer about the Abundant Harvest to Come

A Prayer about the Abundant Harvest to Come

“…the meadows clothe themselves with flocks, the valleys deck themselves with grain, they shout and sing together for joy.” Psalm 65:13

Lord of the Harvest,

In this season of harvest,

May we join together 

with the hills and the meadows and the valleys, 

shouting and singing for joy.

Yes, it’s true, we don’t always see the bounty 

described in Psalm 65 

on this broken earth:

crops wither under drought and frost,

forests and trees are devastated 

by wildfires and hurricanes, 

and yet we know a day is coming

when you will crown creation 

“with your bounty,” 

when your paths will “overflow with abundance” (Psalm 65:11). 

We look forward to the day we will gather 

in your restored creation, 

in the new heavens and the new earth, 

and we will see how you have sustained us all along, 

not just spiritually, but also physically. 

We look forward to the day 

when you will “make the going out of the morning 

and the evening to shout for joy” (Psalm 65:8). 

We look forward to the day 

when we will join with all of creation 

in awe of the “awesome deeds” you have done (Ps. 65:5).

In Jesus’ restoring name. Amen.

Read Psalm 65.