How to Pray for Children and Grandchildren

How to Pray for Children and Grandchildren

Our children and grandchildren desperately need prayer

I’ll never forget the day I dropped my oldest daughter off for her first day at our large public high school. Our son had gone before her, but somehow it felt different for my daughter. She seemed small and frail (even at almost 5’8 as a high school freshman) walking in among the throngs of students. Even though we had always had a “no cellphone till driving rule” (that was back in the mid-2000’s), I drove immediately to the phone store and bought her her first flip phone. I also upped my prayers for her and all of my children as I thought of all of the struggles they would face each day at school. The reality is that a cellphone could help her reach me if she had a problem during the day, but what she needed most was the help of the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth.

Maybe that’s why the beginning of the school year seems like a good time to revisit our prayers for our children and grandchildren. I keep a page in my prayer journal for prayers for my children and their spouses. It’s a simple piece of thick notebook paper (I use Tul from Office Depot, no affiliate), with their names and what I’m praying for them. You could use a piece of paper, a prayer card, or just keep it in your head (if your memory is better than mine). Even if you don’t have children or grandchildren, consider walking through this exercise for a child you know and love, maybe a niece or nephew or a child at church or a foster child. 

If you’d like a one-page template for writing out the answers to the questions and with a space for the final prayer, be sure to subscribe for this free printable resource and a new one every month. 

Step 1: Consider their story.

First, consider their story, how God has exquisitely designed them—gifts, strengths, passions, how sin has uniquely affected them—their sin struggles as well as the impacts of sin on them. The following questions will guide you to discover more of their story:

1. What is their personality like?

2. What do they enjoy?

3. What gifts, passions, and strengths do they have?

4. What unique struggles with faith might their personality present?

5. What current struggles are they facing?

6. What are their desires and longings?

7. What are their needs?

8. What struggles do you have in parenting or grand parenting this child? 

Step 2: Find Scripture to pray.

I usually update my prayer sheet for my kids about once a month or once every other month. I often write at the top a general concept that I am praying for them. Here are some examples:

That they would “grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ” (2 Peter 3:18).

That God would do “far more abundantly than we all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us” (Ephesians 3:20).

That they would be “rooted and grounded in love” (Ephesians 3:17).

That God would “create in [them] a clean heart…and renew a right spirit within [them]” (Psalm 51:10). 

If you want to write a verse at the top of your card or sheet, consider the following (more verses on the template:

Psalm 51:10 (freedom from sin)

Psalm 86:11 (learning to walk with God)

Isaiah 43:1-7 (knowing that they are precious to God) (Again, can be broken up.)

Ephesians 6:1 (learning obedience)

Step 3: Write your prayer sheet or prayer card.

(If you’d like a template for the prayer sheet or prayer card, be sure to sign up for this and other free resources.)

I like to have five areas on my prayer sheet, but you can add more.

1. Praise: What are you thanking God for in your child’s life?

2. Protection: What protections does your child need right now?

3. Petition: What desires does your child have? Pray that God would grant the desires that would be good for your child or reshape them for their good and his glory.

4. Provision: What needs does your child have? Again, ask that God would provide

5. Parenting: What needs and desires do you have as this child’s parent? 

Step 4: Pray.

Once you’ve created your prayer sheet or card, go through different aspects of it every day. If you do this intentional preparation, you will find that you don’t have to have the sheet or card in front of you every day. You will be able to pray intentionally for your children as they come to mind throughout the day. 

A Prayer for Praying for Our Children

Dear Heavenly Father,

We admit that as parents we often think we need to fix our children’s problems or that they need to change their ways, and fast. When we become anxious or angry, frightened or frustrated, help us to press pause on our thoughts and press into praying. Make us more intentional about our prayers for our children that they may grow in grace and the knowledge of your surpassing love. In Jesus’ tender name we pray. Amen. 

A Prayer about Listening to God

A Prayer about Listening to God

Speaking Lord, 

as we begin this week, 

many of us think about the work we need to do.

What if we began instead 

by thinking of prayer as our most important work?

And then, what if we began our prayer 

by listening to you 

rather than listing our many needs? 

Not that you don’t invite us 

to present all of our requests before you (Philippians 4: 6),

But too often we fail to see prayer as 

“answering God,” 

as Eugene Peterson put it. 

Today, let us begin by listening to a few things 

you’ve told us in your Word:

“For behold, I create new heavens and a new earth, 

and the former things shall not be remembered or come to mind” (Isaiah 65:1).

[Remain quiet and dwell on these words God has spoken to you].

“But be glad and rejoice forever in that which I create; 

for behold, I create Jerusalem to be a joy, 

and her people to be a gladness.”

[Remain quiet and listen to God speaking his joy and gladness over you.]

“I will rejoice in Jerusalem and be glad in my people; 

no more shall be heard in it the sound of weeping and the cry of distress.”

[Remain quiet and imagine the day of no more weeping and distress.]

Lord, may our prayers become more quiet. 

Make us attentive listeners, 

curious to hear what you have to say to us. 

As we hear your voice, 

through your Word, through general revelation, 

and through your Spirit, 

make our hearts beat more regularly 

to the rhythm of your grace and glory. 

In the name of the Word-Made-Flesh, Jesus our Savior. Amen.

Read Isaiah 65:17-25. 

A Prayer about a God Who Can Do Far More than We Ask or Think

A Prayer about a God Who Can Do Far More than We Ask or Think

Glorious God, 

I believe; I confess my unbelief.

For the past few days, 

we’ve been praying Paul’s prayer 

asking you to strengthen us

 through the power of your Spirit, 

for the purpose of comprehending 

your incomprehensible love.

As we come to the end of this series, 

we must ask ourselves honestly,

do we dare to pray this prayer:

You are able to do far more abundantly 

than ALL that we ask or think—

[pause for a few moments

and think about things 

that you may not dare to believe God is able to do…]

How do you do it? 

By working within us, 

through your power (not ours).

Why do you do it?

For the glory of the church 

and for the glory of Jesus Christ 

through all generations, forever and ever and ever.

Today, help us to see how you have already inscribed 

your incomprehensible love into our stories 

and into the redemption of your cosmos.

[Take a few moments again to write or name some of these things].

By the power of your Spirit and because of your glory, 

help us to grasp how much you really love us, Lord, 

and make that love flow boldly through our lives.

In Jesus’ everything-changing name. Amen. 

Read Ephesians 3:14-21. 

A Prayer for the Kind of Strength We Need

A Prayer for the Kind of Strength We Need

Father God, 

Thank you for this comprehensive prayer 

Paul prayed for his friends the Ephesians. 

Today, we pray it for our loved ones and for ourselves:

Out of your glorious riches — 

your riches aren’t earned, 

nor are they corrupt, 

nor are they self-serving — 

they are glorious and generous and plentiful 

to provide all of our needs…

May you strengthen [insert name of loved one or your name] 

with your power — 

your power, which is perfectly wielded 

for the weak and needy (that’s us and others) 

to make us strong — 

not Ford tough or Chevy strong— 

but strong in our “inner being,” 

strong in your Spirit’s power, 

not our own. 

As you strengthen us 

by your Spirit, 

may [name of loved one’s] heart 

come to rest 

in the life-changing reality 

that Christ, our King and Savior, dwells in our hearts. 

In the name of our heart-dwelling Savior, Jesus, we pray.

Amen. 

Read Ephesians 3:14-21. 

A Prayer about Praying Boldly

A Prayer about Praying Boldly

Holy Spirit,

As you did with the early disciples 

when they were faced with persecution:

Fill us with your power 

and shake us out of our safe, status quo prayers. 

Sharpen the focus of our prayers—

that we might share the good news: 

Jesus has come to save his people!

far and wide, moment by moment. 

Embolden our prayers—

that you, the Holy God would do 

“signs and wonders” 

in the “name of his holy servant Jesus” (Acts 4:30).

Strengthen us through our prayers—

that we might become bolder and wiser 

in the way we speak your Word. 

In the holy name of Jesus we ask. Amen. 

Read Acts 4:23-31. 

A Prayer about Not Worrying

A Prayer about Not Worrying

Good Father,

Once, after a hurricane, 

a friend told me how she handled her worry 

that her seventy-year-old house 

would be destroyed: 

“I stayed inside and thought happy thoughts.” 

There’s nothing wrong with thinking happy thoughts, 

but you have given us a much better antidote to the worry and fear 

that plague us during seasons of crisis: 

Prayer. 

Rejoicing in you, 

because that turns our thoughts 

toward your delight in us and our hope in that delight (Philippians 4:4).

Presenting our requests to you, 

because that acknowledges our utter helplessness, 

your supreme power,

and your good, Fatherly care for us (Philippians 4:6).

Thanking you, because that reminds us 

of how you have saved us in the past 

and points us toward 

how you will rescue us in the future (Philippians 4:6).

Lord, today, when worry creeps in, 

turn our hearts toward you in prayer, 

that we may know the peace 

that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

In Jesus’ peace-bringing name.

Amen.

Read Philippians 4:4-9.