A Father’s Day Gift He’ll Love
A Father’s Day Gift He’ll Love
Last month we wrote letters to our mothers or mother figures, thanking them for how they shaped our lives. Dads often get short shrift when it comes to Father’s Day, though I’m not quite sure why. We don’t always go to the lengths to celebrate Dads that we do to celebrate moms. But if you have or had a dad who gave you a taste of the goodness of our Heavenly Father, you know he should be celebrated.
As I said last month, that may not have been your experience. Your dad may have been absent or even abusive. If that’s the case, I hope there is someone on this earth who has given you a little glimpse of a good father. Or, like me, you may have lost your dad in recent years. I am going to try this exercise as I continue to grieve my father’s loss.
If you want to try it, here are the basic instructions, similar to last month’s but altered for dads. Also, if you want the printable template I created to write the Mother’s Day letter, make sure to sign up to get that and other free resources to help you learn, live, and love in God’s story of grace.
Prompts:
Tell him something you love about him…
His cooking, his sense of humor, his kindness, the way he provided for you and your family
Tell him a way he’s really helped you…
Always being there when you call or text
Teaching you about money and responsibility
Coaching your soccer team
Making your children giggle
Tell him about a characteristic or practice she has that you’d like to develop…
His kindness, faithfulness, boldness
His discipline in reading the Bible, his commitment to exercise, his love of prayer
Tell him about a lasting impact he’s made…
on the world, on you, on your family, on your friends, on his work.
Think about things he’s really good at…
things he says a lot (even if you got tired of hearing it),
things he loves…
Tips for Writing Your Letter
- Pray about it. Ask God to help your memory and your imagination. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you the right words.
- Brainstorm…Set a timer for 15 minutes and get all your ideas down on paper or into the voice recorder on your phone. Talk to your siblings or your mom if you get stuck. Try to come up with as many specific examples of things your dad has done for you as you can.
- Write a rough draft. Set a timer for 15 minutes and just start writing. You can always change things later.
- Don’t worry about having the right grammar or the best words.
- Do try to be specific…remember to try to “show” rather than “tell”:
Ex. Instead of, “I loved how you read books to me when I was a kid….”
“I loved how you would snuggle up with me on the couch and read The Chronicles of Narnia with me.”
If you do this exercise, I’d love to hear how it goes. Sometimes one of the biggest payoffs comes in the process of writing it. As we think intentionally about thanking our fathers, we see more of how God has worked redemptively in our lives.
For Reflection and Discussion:
Have you written your father a thank-you letter before describing his impact on you as a father? What was that like? Will you do it again?